THE DYNAMICS OF COUPLES

In our couples therapy, there are four in the room. The two of you, your relationship and the therapist.

WE TAKE A MULTI-THEORY APPROACH

Each partner, just like each relationship, is unique. Your partnership is as dynamic as you are; composed of compromises, collaborations, collectivism and conflict. In couples work, it can be effective to work together using a multi-theory approach that combines aspects of family systems and object relations theories, narrative therapy practices, and psychodynamic theoretical approaches. Together, we will be thoughtful about understanding what ways of working together will be most beneficial for our goals.

A MICROSCOPE AND A TELESCOPE

Together we will explore the histories, joys, fears, senses and goals of each of you - including the relationship itself. By utilizing this perspective, we can embrace and honor the fluidity of the partnership. Assessing and accepting these aspects of a couple's relationship means we can use both a microscope and a telescope simultaneously to see, decipher and repair the dysfunction.

IT'S NOT ABOUT "FIXING"

We will not start our work together assuming something is "broken". In all relationships, individuals come together to create a collective experience. Sometimes that experience can become blurred by expectation, assumption, conflict, miscommunication or blame. We will work to bring focus and clarity to the relationship, and to the individuals that make up the partnership, shifting our perspective toward increased insight and opportunity.

Couples therapy is often utilized as a frantic salvation. That tactic isn't always successful. What is more effective than a last resort is a thoughtful intention to increase the partners' attunement to each other. We won't "fix" anything, because that is a flawed objective. We will instead refocus awareness, understanding, communication and interactivity in order to increase how each of you see the other, the relationship and how you communicate. 

Contact me at Andrew@AimPsych.com or reach me by voicemail at (310) 954-1560.

ANDREW MERRELL, LMFT
Therapist, Aim Psychotherapy

Andrew Merrell LMFT #102724 is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in Beverly Hills, CA, 90212 specializing in men's issues and male identity.